"Love their husbands"

Titus 2:3-5-"the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed."

  Someone encouraged me to read a book called "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. It is an excellent book for married couples. Now there are several books that have spun off of the main points in the first book. There are ones for children, teenagers, singles, and specific books for men and women.

If you have not yet read it, I encourage you to borrow it from a friend or the library but you will probably want your own copy to look at often.

The concept is that we love differently. A way that I express love to others may not be the way they want to receive love. Of course we want to receive love the way we also want to express it. After finding out which love language or languages your husband is it becomes easier to see when he is showing love.

I have to remind myself that when my husband rubs my arm or asks for a kiss randomly that he's really telling me "I LOVE YOU!". I also need to make sure I do not refuse his act of love.

When I read "Love their husbands" this is automatically what I thought of. My husband's love languages are physical touch (come on, most men's probably is!) and verbal confirmation. Those are not mine at all. But I have to make an effort to show him love in those ways because he sees love that way. So I have to remember to randomly stop and tell him I think he's handsome or a great dad or husband and hug him and kiss him and of course be intimate with him even if I'm tired (lets be honest, sometimes us women use that as an excuse).

I also want to be loved in my love language. I know for myself that when I'm starting to feel like I'm not getting enough love in my love language its because I have not been diligent about loving my husband in his love languages. Once I get back on track and express love the way he sees it, I find that he is much more willing to show me love in my love language. It's a win, win!  Start it first and see how it works! 

Because my husband goes away for both of his jobs often, physical touch gets put on the back burner then (I think thats why he has 2 love languages) and that's when I have to step it up with verbal affirmation which include written texts and emails (or FB comments) when I can't talk to him on the phone.

I encourage you to find out what your husbands love language(s) is/are today and start coming up with creative ways to show him you love him.