"Chaste"

Titus 2:3-5-"the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed."


"Chaste" is the section we are looking at today.  Chaste means free from obscenity.  Of course as wives we should not cheat on our husbands or lust after another man that is not our husband.  If you are struggling with that I suggest you seek counsel from a Christian counselor.  Usually church offices can give you a good one.

I'd like to talk about being free from obscenity as it pertains to our clothing.  Please do not think that I am being judgemental because that is not at all where my heart is coming from.

I grew up in a christian home.  we had rules as to what we were allowed to wear.  When we turned 18 our parents said that we were allowed to make our own choices which included how we dressed.  I think I wanted to rebel a little so I started to dress in a provocative manner.  Yes, it definitely got me attention from the opposite sex.  For whatever reason at that time, I liked that.  Part of the agreement for living with my parents after I turned 18 was that I needed to continue to go to church each week.  Which I did, wearing whatever I wanted to.  My midriff would show, I would wear tube tops, My pants were so low you could see my thong underwear.  I look back at that with a little embarrassment but more laughter.  I was so stupid!  Everything about how I presented myself showed I was not walking with Christ.  Obviously, that's not how I want to present myself today.  Nor do I want my daughter to.

I tell my daughter the 3 B's need to be covered at all times.  Breasts, bellies, and butts.  I also do not allow her to wear a bikini bathing suit.  She must wear a tankini (one pieces are such a pain for a little girl when you have to use the restroom!) when playing in the pool.  If she is not playing in a pool then she need to put shorts on or her cover up which is a towel material dress with hoodie.  Now I know other Christian moms are not as strict as I am about this for their daughters or themselves and I know other moms who are even more strict than I am.  I'm not telling anyone how they need to handle clothing.  Just sharing how I chose to.  

I have to add here that my parents did confront me about the way I was dressing as a young adult and I of course argued that there was nothing in the bible about how Christians should dress.  As this is technically true my parents didn't say much more about it.  However, now that I am actively pursuing a relationship with Christ this following verse does fall into that category.

  Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth.
2 Timothy 2:15

Just like doing a job interview, you need to dress the part.  Why would God be any different?  If I'm standing there in church asking God to use me while I'm dressed in a very breast revealing top and butt tight skirt that is way shorter than my knees, do I look the part of someone who is ready to go tell everyone about Christ?  I know I would be turned off by a Doctor who wanted to examine me if they dressed like that!  No, I want a professional looking person that I can trust just by their appearance.  I believe that it works the same way with Christians.  We need to show others that we do take pride in ourselves.  Plus I'm not on the market, I don't want that kind of attention except from my husband.  So I save that kind of dressing for him only.

I'd love to discuss this, please leave your comments below.